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someone asked me how do I handle my past. PAST IS PAST. YOU DON'T NEED TO HANDLE IT. it should just be ACCEPTED (for chrissake it's already done) it's easy to say but very hard to do. accept that all things will come to an end.

I've been in a situation wherein I love the person and yet she's too BLIND to notice. that's why I accepted that we really aren't meant for each other. accept the fact that YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE who's FOR YOU. DON'T LOOK FOR IT! IT WILL FIND YOU! (yeah I sound like a broken record but it's true) because the more you look for it, the more time that you're looking at the wrong person. I have a friend who's a PSYCHIC cum MIND and AURA READER who told me that I will find my soulmate in the coming YEARS. and I asked him "in YEARS?" and I realized that why should I wait for her? WE MAKE OUR DESTINY. DESTINIES are the CHOICES WE MAKE. DESTINIES are the trials, errors and the losses that we encounter. why wait? TODAY IS OUR DESTINY.

I have a friend who's undeniably and undoubtedly IN-LOVE with this person and yet she KNOWS that this person loves someone else, had sex with someone else, goes out with someone else. when  I knew all about this I told her that HE ISN'T WORTH IT and she agreed. all along I thought that SHE ALREADY REALIZED THAT SHE'S BETTER OFF WITH ANOTHER MAN, but hell no! I received a text message stating that SHE GAVE THAT MAN MONEY TO HELP HIM OUT WITH HIS EXPENSES. and I told her: "WAKE UP!" (do you want to be like this friend of mine? wherever you are right now, YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO! WAKE UP! BREAK THAT ALMIGHTY HELMET! REMOVE IT AND NEVER PUT IT ON AGAIN!)

remember this: WE make heartaches. if you want to dwell on the fact that she/he doesn't love you anymore, then do it. cry if you must. (everybody knows this) but fuck it's very hard to do right? one reason is that heartaches last for 3 months, yeah not three minutes, not three hours, not even three weeks but three fuckin' months. it's the time for adjustment, time for ACCEPTANCE. do whatever you wanna do. but with LIMITS. they say that if you really love the person FIGHT FOR IT! but if the other person found someone new, would you still be willing to fight for that effin' LOVE?! THINK! THINK not once, not twice, not even thrice. IS IT WORTH IT? for three months ASSESS yourself. don't look for answers why she/he broke up with you, and why you broke up with her/him because in the first place when love came, DID YOU ASK WHY IT CAME? you just allowed it to swallow you whole right? again, ACCEPTANCE.

always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow: if you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love. cry, if you have to, but make sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. and when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

"When I lost you, I was the one who loved you most, but between us you lost more. For someday I can love someone the way that I loved you but you will never be loved again the way that I did."

before I end, I'll leave you guys with this line from Sex and the City:

"When you're young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun, then you grow up and learn to be cautious; you could break a bone, or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don't leap at all because there's not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there is no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?"

Comments

[Jennylyn]

Luckily i was curious to read this article.It gave me the chance to think. Easy to say those things but for me right now, it is hell. Maybe you're right.Hirap talaga ng brokenhearted.

[Risa]

Ok... I've been heart broken plenty of times. One, I always hope that the guy i'm with would be "The One". C'mon, we're not getting any younger and to be hopping from one relationship to another is just tiring sometimes. I agree that the past is past; thus, we should not dwell on it and must move on. Either, that person will be back the second, third, fourth, nth time around, if he's for you, no matter how many times you break up, no matter how many more relationships you be in, you'd still end up in each other's arms. So if you're heartbroken, don't look for love. Don't look for that "Mr. Right". Because the pain has blinded you and has gotten you focused on the mistakes that have been created from your past, you assume that the next person to come who has the "right" quality is the one for you. Too often do we forget that at some point, this person will also have his flaws. Also, when we're heart broken, we get carried away by the situation. Just because another person is making you happy does not mean that he's right for you. You may confuse your feeling of wanting to be loved and wanting a companion to hide your true emotions. Sad to say that when we people bounce back from a heart break, often the new partner is mistaken to be the "cover up" / "rebound". Let's not get to that point. Nevertheless, we should clear our mind and heart of the past and be set for what's to come. Don't be expecting. Just let it come to you. Much better to fall in love with someone simply by being yourself without the intention of wanting to be loved by that person, rather than trying so hard to the point of being pretentious. It doesn't work that way. Whew! I hate the courtship stage. Because guys do things that they hardly ever sustain. Be friends then take it from there...

[Rowell]

nice! thanks for your reply!

thanks for everybody whose been reading my posts.